Stoic Gaze into Clay Crystals

Last two quarters almost entirely spent in observing some social dynamics around meaningful associations & disassociations – at profession, hobbies, dates, and travels. It was interesting stoic observation phase, despite what all was happening around me , on how people and society in general had their perceptions and priorities building up. Here are some of my observations:

1. Profession that you pick could be accidental, but profession or work sphere that you passionately nerdily promote says a lot about you – There is a programmer who works on making things done faster or easier and passionately promotes that trait, and there is someone who constantly talks about new regulation needed, new control measure needed — take a guess? I often get to point asking some their childhood and bringing up years while noticing such
2. In change management, biggest lesson which is not included much in courseware, is to learn to distinguish between ideals & ambassadors. To drive any change you would need imperfect ambassadors – but when any ideal ( or subject matter expert) is seemingly looking established – harsh it sounds, but imperfect ambassadors now have to promote the new ideal for the sustainability of the change established. Its an area where people feel pain, being used, burnt if they do not gel with new ideal while playing ambassadors before. Some compassion & empathy yes but objective reality too while knowing that you cannot have all the answers
3. I have been intrigued always by the hiring practices of certain super efficient organizations and agencies of eastern societies – ie hiring anyone with their end of association in mind. What can this person dis-associate with you in 5yr, 2yr, 6m, 3m, or 3w from now – in your mind you then work out the win-win with that person after above duration you foresee, and proceed with all guards dropped to facilitate to make that win-win happen, but that time window future has to be co-created not unilaterally crafted
4. Give First – is not just a charity principle, but its more like Tithing. If you looking for new skill or associations or associations – start by giving first – mentoring/teaching what you know to others who might need, or build bridges and connections for others who are seeking if you can – and continue your hustle. What goes out comes around.
5. To strike a humourous conversation is a strength – especially when you have learnt to endure the other inevitabilities with change, pain, or other calamities. A humourous conversation which is not targetted to offend, will actually require your wit, intellect, presence of mind, all in congruence – but once done get back to your actual work and dont stay getting caught in fun guy/gal mode. You manifested humour in your conversation like the tuning of guitar and found your mind and wits tuned , tuning is over, concert play is waiting for your real play. Your ability to deliver humour or not, can also be a barometer of your own stress levels or your paying attention listening to others. If you could pinpoint the cause — thats all is required to know anything more about yourself instead of anyone telling you most of the times. In my case, I could notice thst grief from death of a closed relative was repeatedly in the play for me.
6. Pillaging of Ideals is necessary from time to time for true evolutionary change. Also while evaluating whats in it for whom in every association and revisiting adjusting the hedges & risk spreads. I personally almost always find it always itchy to transit jobs or move places or actually transit from one certain group of people to another — but knowing that there is lot unknown and lot of lessons waiting to be learnt — accepting change sooner than it manifests itself comes more enduring!
7. Dunber is sacred — this can be your stratosphere if you want to rise. Human cognitive ability is limited to keep only 150 ( Dunber Number) associations active or alive at one point of time. Trying to be someone else is waste of your time. And lot could be wasting your time repeatingly too. Your needs matter. Too many chat associations buzzing? Then maybe do group chat or AMA session 👀 — your core is important, so you naturally connect with those who also represent their core. Quality of associations therefore have a big qualitative impact